Sometimes you do not realize how much you are carrying until a single conversation brings it all to the surface. That happened for me yesterday while talking with my loved one, and it reminded me of something I have known my entire life but never really said out loud.
We often only see what is right in front of us. We see the behavior. We see the struggle. We see the choices people make. But we do not always look back far enough to understand the journey that created all of it.
There are wounds our ancestors never had the space or support to heal. There are patterns that were passed down because no one had the capacity to stop and mend them. And for many of us, the responsibility eventually lands on the one who becomes aware enough, strong enough, and willing enough to say, This ends with me.
I grew up in an environment where many young men did not expect to live past twenty five. There was a lot of violence, dysfunction, and a lack of resources.
People were trying to survive circumstances they never asked for. And when survival is the priority, you do not have time or space to imagine a future. You are not thinking about legacy. You are thinking about making it through the day.
So dreaming about your grandchildren or imagining generational impact feels foreign. Most people never had the space to imagine who they could become, let alone who their children might one day become.
Because of all of this, I also understand why many people do not want the responsibility of raising children or starting a family. And I truly mean it when I say I get it. There were times in my own life when I could understand why my mother mentally checked out, especially after everything she went through with my father.
Parenthood requires emotional presence, self regulation, patience, and a level of healing many people have never been taught. It is complex. It is nuanced. And many carry unhealed pain while trying to raise children of their own.
But even with that understanding, the truth remains. When you bring children into this world, there is responsibility. And the choices we make, or avoid making, ripple into the generations after us.
I did not grow up with my parents. The things many people receive from their parents emotional grounding, guidance, protection, and support were things I had to figure out alone.
For a long time, I thought that meant something was wrong with me or that I was behind. But now I understand something deeper.
Some of us are not behind at all. Some of us are chosen. Chosen to break the patterns. Chosen to name the wounds. Chosen to heal what others in our family never had the capacity or room to face. Chosen to rewrite the story for the generations after us.
And the timing of this realization is not coincidence. This is a nine year. A year of clearing, completion, and release. A year that brings old patterns to the surface not to overwhelm you, but to help you see what is ready to end.
And now we are in the final month of this nine year, which is a powerful time for reflection. This is the moment to go inward. To look honestly at what you have been carrying. To ask yourself what needs to be released so you can make room for what is coming next.
Release is not losing. Release is preparing. Release is how you create space for what God has been trying to send you.
This is the work of breaking generational patterns. This is how you become the ancestor your children will be grateful for.
This is exactly why I do the work I do with women. Guiding them intuitively beyond survival mode. Helping them regulate their nervous system. Supporting them as they reconnect with their intuition and step into soul aligned wellness. Because breaking generational patterns is not just emotional work. It is spiritual, physical, neurological, and ancestral work.
I did not choose the circumstances I was born into. But I everyday choose the woman I am becoming. And now I help other women choose themselves too. Not just for their own healing, but for the generations who will rise because of the work they did.
If you are waking up to the patterns in your lineage If you are feeling the urge to release If you are sensing that something in you is ready to shift.
You are not late. You are right on time. You are already becoming the ancestor your family needed.
